I was recently asked by a girl I have known for years how I would feel about being in an open relationship with her. I told her "No you're the only girl I'd ever want so if I'm not enough for you why bother?" The reason I don't want to do it is because I'd never need more than one girl so why be greedy. But I know the reason I could never do it is the fact that I'm too jealous for it. Granted I'm not the most jealous guy in the world but sleeping with my girl is enough to make me jealous.
I thought about that for a while. The reason I couldn't do it is because I'm jealous. Jealousy is obviously not a flattering quality in a person most of the time (I say "most" because I love girls that are jealous to a point). But in general I feel it would be agreed that jealousy is a negative quality. That being said does that mean open relationships are a more mature and enlightened form of dating?
Sure you could argue that people just want to be able to have sex with whoever they want whenever they want but honestly is that such a bad thing? I mean someone could have sex with 100 people and be clean while another person could have sex with one person and get an STD. So to me the STD argument isn't a good enough one to convince me that open relationships are a cop out.
Now some people say that monogamy isn't natural. Statistically speaking they are right most species aren't monogamous but I feel that giving that specific reason is a cop out. We are smarter than other animals so don't say "it's how they act so why shouldn't we?" It makes you sound like an idiot.
I know one girl that has been in an open relationship for years and I recently asked her why and her response was "why not?" and it got me to think "yeah why not?" I really can't think of an answer that doesn't involve conforming due to social pressures. I mean does having a relationship with two girls mean you can't love both of them with all your heart? Parents are expected to love all of their kids equally so why should any other relationship be different?
Honestly I think legitimate arguments can be made for both sides. In general I would say most people arguing against open relationships are just delusional romantics and most people arguing for them are just selfish people who want to fuck whoever they want whenever they want. Obviously not everyone is sex crazed or stupid there are people who don't fit into those categories.
I honestly don't know how to feel about it. I know if you want to have an open relationship I totally support you and hope you are happy doing it but again I personally don't think I could do it. I'm sure I could manage but I wouldn't be as happy as I would be just dating the girl. As it stands I really don't see myself ever being in an open relationship but what do I know I'm just a delusional romantic at heart.
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